When a loved one dies, what you choose to put on their gravestone can say a lot about how you remember that person. Gravestones are made to last for generations and they often serve as the only remaining monument of the deceased. If you don’t want your choice of inscription to come off as cold or devoid of feeling, here are five tips you might want to keep in mind.
- Personalize it
So many people choose generic inscriptions such as “Beloved Father,” or “Loving Mother” that they lessen the meaning of what they’re trying to say about their loved one’s life and death. If you want your inscription to be special, try coming up with an idea that speaks to the life of the deceased. Maybe it’s something they used to say often or maybe they had a favourite joke. Think about your loved one and what was most important about them when considering what you want to say in their inscription.
- Be open
If you’re not religious but would like to include some religious or spiritual meaning, such as quotes or poems from a holy book of your choosing, then you should do that. Just like some people choose not to include religious symbols, such as crosses and stars of David, on their gravestones for personal reasons, those who do want those symbols on their gravestones should be able to include them without others questioning why. Religious inscriptions are always personal.
- Use humour
The best memories are always the fondest ones, so it’s often a good idea if you want to brighten the mood to use humour in your inscription. It doesn’t have to be anything mean or embarrassing but maybe something that made your loved one laugh. It could also be a quote the person would have found humorous.
To sum up,
When choosing gravestone inscriptions, it’s important to remember that these are personal choices. They’re not always appropriate for everyone but they should never hurt other people or make the deceased seem like anything less than who they were in life because, after all, these decisions should be about them.